Cuckqean Is To Cuckold As Slut Is To…

It’s actually unfortunate society has become so oriented around monogamous relationships. If you look at the history of mankind’s relationship with love and sex, it was a one-sided affair where it was more acceptable (albeit crudely) for a man to bed another woman while it was forbidden for women to do the same. That’s why as women become more empowered in today’s society, it is still taboo for women to do what men find natural – to sleep around. They get called special names which do not have a masculine form. Whenever we hear or call people sluts (a sexually liberal woman) or cunts (a vocal, confrontational woman) for their behavior, it really is falling back to the idea that women should stay submissive and act a certain way – a way unlike men.

In many cultures throughout history, it was generally accepted (again, albeit crudely) for men who had the leisure and income to seek out whores and other sexual partners apart from the wife he’s left at home. It’s such an almost universally pervasive cultural phenomenon that, again, we struggle to find a word for the masculine form. If a word doesn’t exist for something or some concept, that generally means people aren’t talking about it. We know what a hyperdrive is because someone imagined it; the same with a manticore or slut or a ghost pirate ninja. What’s the other word for cuckold (a man whose wife is unfaithful)? Just as with slut and the modern connotation of cunt, there is no masculine form of cuckold. This is so true, William Kirby created a neologism (cuckquean) for it in 1897, over 3 centuries after the first appearance of “cuckold.” Despite its existence, it’s not a common word and barely merits a reference in any dictionary.

And what have we learned since the empowerment of women? Not only that women culturally free to leave their male mate or husband end up doing so in increased numbers, but that men and women in monogamous relationships tend to cheat all the time. The attempt to ignore sexual and relational wanderlust often leads to disillusion of the present relationship and partner and commonly leads to dissolution. Both men and women experience this wanderlust and suppression of it leads to stress in relationships, and eventually stress fractures. If we lived in society which found polyamory acceptable or even encouraged it, that stress buildup may not manifest and many relationships might find more stability.

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Of course, the common argument is that people are jealous and that such a society wouldn’t work. We’ve set up society in a way that it is still difficult for two people who have commitments to separate, so culture pressures us into monogamy. A society that accepted polyamory wouldn’t be a panacea to the human frailty of sexual wanderlust, but our culture tends to imbibe jealousy and sexual paranoia insidiously into our minds as a way to continue the encouragement of monogamy. Culture and tradition tends to be self-replicating and defensive; as with every other tradition, as is in the case of our monogamous culture, social vilification and shaming of people who do not submit to cultural norms tends to have that effect. Hence we have words for women who participate in sexual liberty (sluts) or speak back to people of authority (cunts), words for men who have been cheated on (cuckold) but the masculine is barely a blip in the dictionary. Furthermore, we tend to view open relationships as taboo and the people as dirty and filthy.

I don’t think it needs to be said we still live in a culture where it is more acceptable for men to be promiscuous while women should close their legs. This is especially noticeable within some black communities where masculine bravado and swagger are celebrated right beside promiscuity yet women are considered nasty for having as many partners. In conservative white society, male promiscuity is kept a secret lest people find out the truth that there’s no such thing as genuine social conservatism; but never mention a promiscuous female – she’s not conservative, she’s a progressive. You find less cultural shaming for sexual libertines but it exists even in liberal white society. In these circles, you mostly see passive acceptance of monogamy as the result of the insidious, propagandistic nature of tradition seeps into mind and gets trapped as the only acceptable reality.

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So, I say society should move more towards sexual freedom and away from monogamy. Polyamory tends to not work in our society because we still live in a very monogamous culture and even those who practice polyamory are trained to be jealous and consider their mate a form of property, even if loosely held post-female suffrage.

I really do mean it when I say people should just all fuck around. I don’t mean it in a way that I am just throwing my hands in the air out of frustration; I mean it in an intelligible manner. Just. Fuck.

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